On Temptation
Just the other night, a close girl friend told me via SMS that she’s confronted by another temptation in the form of a 30-something, chinky-eyed, hot, male dentist, working in their company. Add to that a killer smile. Just exactly the kind that comes off irresistible to her. Married, though. But that didn’t quite diminish his seeming yumminess to my friend. And this hot chunk of male goodness has just asked her out on a date.
The problem here is my friend is devoted to her current beau. This temptation would have been welcome, if she was single. But, unfortunately, she isn’t. However, what harm can a single dinner date do? Well, it depends on what could happen during that single dinner date.
She asked me, then, to advise her on what she must do.
This is the sum of what I’ve told her:
Go out with him, then. Temptations are hard to fight and all the more you fight it, it gets stronger and you get weaker, being drained of strength. Better to give in a little and turn it to your advantage. When you go to that date, firmly bear in mind that nothing else will come after it. No more follow-up dates or casual coffee rendezvous. Just that one single date. And in that date, you must get to know him, well enough to dispel the enchantment you have about him. Look for things about him that you don’t really like. Even as mundane as the irritating scent of his cologne or the way he crassly chews his food. I do believe that, when you try to face the temptation head-on, you’d be able to break its hold on you, rather than trying to evade it on the get-go and be surprised when you find it sneaking up on you, tightly grabbing hold of you, and then, finding yourself helplessly falling. No, you should not put on such cowardly act. The evasive maneuvers should be used after the date. There will be two outcomes: one is that he’ll be mad at you; the other is that he’ll deem it as a challenge silently issuing from you, therefore, he’ll pursue you further. But then, at least, you’ll already be an arm’s length away from temptation.
I hope my feverish friend will be able to get through this intact and whole. I would really be sorry to see such promising relationship ripped to shreds just for moments of thrill and pleasure.
